QuoteOriginally posted by: MaosikaI listen to everyone include myself, and realized that we tend to use the word but several times a days. You?ll use the word to invalidate what you just said, as in: You did a great job, but? Or you?ll use the word to defend your actions, as in: I would have done that, but?When one, "drops the but" they are actually taking the time to recognize and hear what someone is saying which in turn makes the other person feel good. Even if they don't agree with that person, "dropping the but" still makes the person feel as if they have been genuinely heard.You can start using the word ?and? because the word ?but? nullifies what you just said. e.g. ?I did ten things on my to-do list, but I didn?t do the remaining five things?. Instead you could say: ?I did ten things and I have five more to go. ? So I decided to drop the but, and I change it by and. You should see how people more appreciated your advices, and feedback after.I should take this advice to heart, but ...Königspudel,Waggy school of dog trainingDegree in bone biology.Major in sticks and barking at cars.Fulmer.
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