It's not job category, it's philosophical choices.If you decide your purpose in being on Earth is to move to the planet Pluto, then you will always be depressed. Because you will go to bed every day knowing you haven't gotten any closer, and it is hopeless.But if your goal is that humanity survives long enough that someday someone lives on Mars, then you should be happy just doing any productive job that contributes to an economy that does space research, or doing research yourself.And if your goal is just to drive down Main Street in a cool blue pickup truck, then you should be happy digging ditches, or whatever moves you tangibly closer to your goal each day.Some people are just happy watching the most popular TV show each night. And other people are just happy every day because they are married to someone who always agrees with them. Marriage give you visibility, let's you plan and predict where you will be and what you will be doing in 10 years. Sometimes just that little extra bit of certainty can make you more satisfied.If you need to have goals and benchmarks, just set reasonable ones. Or find something to be happy about.Girls and guys should not get confused. Girls are thermometers, and they are designed to be less interested in sex if the paint is peeling, or if there are bombs dropping or something. In other words, girls are designed to be malcontent or to be content doing nothing, just observing and judging. For girls, quality of life means whether the environment is secure for either raising children, or for being treated like a child themselves. But a guy can be happy tooling around with engines or arguing or something, or pursuing a goal.Generally, the world is a tragic place. And if you can save one puppy from getting sucked down a storm drain each day, you will have two achievements to smile about. You will have saved an innocent creature from a helpless death. And you will have found something to feed your family for dinner.To the extent you can choose your goals and values, and to the extent moving towards your chosen goal or satisfying your values induces happiness, you will have a high quality of life.Suppose your prejudices keep you from being happy. Maybe you were raised to believe divorce is immoral and your wife divorces you, or maybe there is just something wrong in the world. You have to design a reasonable goal around ameliorating whaveter condition bothers you. Parents whose children are killed seem often to find some sort of purpose campaigning to eliminate whatever killed their children.I saw what I think were singles ads on Craigslist a few months ago. So far as I can tell, the girls had lowered their expectations to where they were willing to settle for a guy who met just one little requirement. Just give me a guy who is tall, or who is Jewish, or something. And then once they meet that guy they still won't be satisfied, they will have new problems and challenges. But that is why people live to be more than a year old.If your goal is to sit in the sun, then make a little log of how many hours, and how many days you spend sitting in the sun. And put the tally in your pocket, and carry it around like cash. Or if your goal is to prove to someone that you can do one thing that nobody else can do, then be a contrarian and see how many days you can sit in the rain. If you think you are missing out on something, or want to prove you can get something someone else can get, then find something you can get that no one else can get, and pretend that thing is important.Or maybe you can just take pride in being stubborn, and in resisting every opportunity to be content or to accomplish something satisfying. And you can be smug about having high standards, and about knowing the difference. Keep a little notebook where you write down records and observations of just how overworked and miserable people are, and design a little misery scale and formula, and secretly place people on it. Estimate just how much pain you would feel in their position compared to them. And convince yourself that this is useful and important work, and that it makes you a good and successful person!
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