I don't get Vikingians at all. Could help me understand please?
Last time I came to Oslo for 3 days, I called my old work mate to ask if he wanted to meet. He said he was very busy, so I went to sleep early. In the morning I found a string of messages starting from an announcement that he arrived in Oslo to meet me, and then spiralling down into an angry attack that I wound him up, and that he knew that I was the kind of a person who did such things to people (!). (+ a few similar stories - at first they don't have time, and when I get on doing something else, they get angry that I can't meet)
Another interesting one: I invite a friend for lunch to a recommended restaurant. He says no. After the lunch break I get a message that he was there asking why I didn't come.
These are just two examples of situations which involved several different (Norwegian) persons. Where's the key?
Having lived away from the country for more than a generation (by common usage of the term), I can't really presume to speak for Vikingians as a group, and that extends to the male ones you seem to inadvertently wind up and abandon. I can certainly not excuse the behaviors that have been imposed on you. The takeaway from the first case may be to leave your messaging app in a sufficiently loud mode that you are better able to intercept miscommunications in real time, when an early "sorry, I thought you were too busy, so I went to bed" might have defused the situation. The second one just seems kind of confused and rude. Not sure what would help there. One would be tempted to blame language, but your English is excellent, and I would be surprised if your friends/mates/whatevers didn't also have a decent grasp of it. Had the gender roles been reversed, I could have offered up some kind of theory of playing slightly hard to get while actually being all too ready to come around if only asked twice or thrice. Under the circumstances (especially in the case of lunch), that seems a bit far fetched. So, in summary, I have no idea.