I assume you're using eigen(X), where X is your matrix. Does it help when you set symmetric (also works for Hermitian if the matrix is complex) to true, i.e. eigen(X, symmetric = TRUE)? What is your ultimate goal, by the way? If you need this for the PCA, for example, then perhaps there's a faster way to do it -- while in principle one could use the eigenvalue decomposition of a covariance matrix, it might be better to use fast.prcomp() instead (needs data matrix, though):
http://finzi.psych.upenn.edu/R/library/ ... rcomp.html